Most people mechanically perform all the rituals in a wedding because everybody is constrained for time to find out the reasons behind those rituals. They are performed only because they are supposed to be done! However all the small and big wedding rituals have a reason behind them, and being more aware helps in conducting these ceremonies in a better way. One such small ceremony is Mande ka Pujan, which has a very subtle and beautiful meaning behind it.
A Manda is made up of clay bowls, Mitti ki Saraiya, with a hole in the centre so that they can be tied together. These are easily available with any potter. The Manda is tied together with a strong red thread or cloth at the girl’s place while the colour is white at the boys place. The saraiya are tied in pairs, with their mouths facing each other. The topmost and bottom-most bowl are tied single with its mouth facing upwards and downwards respectively.
Significance of Mande ka Pujan
These clay bowls are not tied together because they look nice, infact there is a very deep meaning behind this ceremony. The first clay bowl starting from the bottom signifies that after entering married life, one must never forget his dharma. He must deliver his dharma by serving the poor and donating a part of his wealth to good causes leaving his ego and expectations from this service behind.
The Saraiyan in between signify that one should not show off his/her wealth and work in life just the way the clay bowls are enclosed facing each other.
The last clay bowl facing upwards towards the skies signifies Moksha. When one stays away from anger, attachment, jealousy, envy, greed, then he would find the doors to Moksha open just like the clay bowl.
In short the Manda represents the design of the human life and Mande ka Pujan is worshipping this creation of God and educating the bride and the groom of how they can conduct their lives for its their betterment and wellbeing.
Mande ka Pujan is done at the entrance of the wedding house, where it is tied up generally by the brother-in-law of the bride/groom’s father. The brother-in-law is gifted with sweets and clothes after he hangs the Manda to honour his service.